MICHELLEISMS

Dear Ex – [Insert one] Husband, Boyfriend, Fiancé, Lover:

Hope all is well and that you are blessed and content. You’ve crossed my mind occasionally and although our past was drama-filled, I did truly love you and will always wish you the best in life. Thank you for the lessons that you taught me about love and life. I learned what to do in a relationship and most notably what not to do. I pray that my presence in your life taught you those same valuable lessons and that your next relationship reaps the benefits of that knowledge.

Please do not take this message to mean that I want you back in my life, nor do I desire a response. I merely want you to know there is no ill will in my heart. So if our paths ever cross again, you need not be afraid to simply say say “Hello”…

Ok…now back to our regularly scheduled program…

I wrote this post approximately one year ago today. February 14, 2008 to be exact, which was well before I started my personal site. Looking back…I honestly meant what I wrote but never thought I would ever come face to face with my past….EVER! But recently, the ex who took me on a trip through hell and back appeared in front of me at a friend’s birthday party. My initial instinct was to flee… since I think I saw him before he saw me…but I immediately stopped myself and realized that I wasn’t in that space anymore. Those things he did to me can never be undone, but one thing I know for sure is that they will NEVER be done again. So, standing strong and confident in my truth, I watched as he walked back and forth in front of me with his new chick as if to intimidate me. After the 3rd pass-by, I simply touched his arm…said “Hello” and moved on. I’ve never felt so strong!

Back when we were together, I never thought that I would ever love anyone more. I was wrong. Years away from that abusive situation has left me with a keen perception for bullshit and I’ve learned to love ME more. I’m living my dreams and am spiritually fulfilled. This was not an overnight process and it took quite some time to get to this place…longer than I would have liked. But I’m here now and I’m thankful for the journey. As horrible as it was, it made me the woman I am today.