MICHELLEISMS

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.” ~ Proverbs 18:21

You speak it and so it is. Therefore you have to be mad careful about the things that come out of your mouth. I was speaking with a good friend of mine today and shared a bit of “how to” info with her when she suddenly spoke ill of me. I don’t wanna go into too much detail, but my friend said something about me that I took offense to…and I don’t offend easily.

Now don’t get me wrong, her opinion of me is hers and hers alone and she’s entitled to it. However, I’m not the one to sit by and allow ANYONE to speak ill of me, joking or not. And because of the intensity of the words…they were no joke. During our call, instead of getting angry and uncommunicative, I attempted to share with her exactly why I felt her words were inappropriate. Before I knew it I was quoting bible verses. Although my version wasn’t 100% accurate I was close enough when I told her to slow her roll… “you hold the power of life and death in your tongue…” I said, “so please don’t speak that on me…that’s NOT cool at all!”

Now, I dunno if she got it or not cause she then tried to explain to me why she said what she said, but my point is simply this…you should be conscious of your words and whenever possible do not speak negativity. How could one possibly call another human being…stupid, dumb, ugly, crazy (or any other negative adjective) and not think that the words have impact? Another friend always tells me that I see the glass half-full…that I’m one of those rose-colored glasses wearing chicks who visualizes the bright side of things and I agree with him. I’m usually the one who seeks alternatives to the worse case scenario.

Even in this case, I’m seeking to find an alternative to believing that she actually has those feeling about me. I mean…we are all works in progress and I, of all people, don’t proclaim to be a saint, but when interacting with my friends I hope to share a positive word or to. To lift them up not break them down. To lend encouragement. To offer a kind word or an ear to listen to their gripes…yada yada yada. Cause that’s what friend’s do.

I’m an open and honest person and don’t mind sharing information on dayum near ANY subject. Especially to those in my inner circle, but after receiving her response, I’m feeling some kinda way. Like I’ve shared too much with the wrong one. I realize that I can only control my response to the situation and since I spoke up when it happened, I won’t carry the burden of it festering into any harsh feelings. But from now on, I just know that some things I’ll keep to myself.