MICHELLEISMS

“LOVE is patient, LOVE is kind, and is not jealous; LOVE does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” ~ Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is…a fixation that some people have but once they obtain it they don’t know what to do with it.

Love is…intimacy.

Love is… romance.

Love is…sharing.

Love is…all those things and more. I had to memorize Corinthians 13:4-7 during a very trying relationship. Now, every time I think about taking that annual call from “the EX” I’m strong enough to resist. Our relationship was, at best, a lesson in what NOT to do as a couple but once you let someone into your heart it’s easy to overlook all those things that LOVE is NOT supposed to be. Crazy thing is…at the time, I thought he treated me like a queen. I let the few wonderful moments we shared outweigh the tons of drama filled ones. I’ve spent years beating myself up over it but I’d never EVER trade those experiences for anything in the word simply because… they taught me what NOT to accept and made me who I am today.

Who is that? You might ask. Well… I am a lot of things….but the one thing I’m NOT anymore is BLIND. I wrote this post today after watching The Oprah Winfrey show where she had several woman on the show who’d been infected by the same man. The guy…I think his name was Phillipe, was dating over 10/15 women at a time and sleeping with them all unprotected. One woman found out about his cheating ways and decided to do a bit of research. After discovering that she was HIV positive, the chick set out to warn everyone that Phillipe was sleeping with.  Fast forward a bit and it was revealed that Phillipe KNEW he was infected prior to sleeping with any of the woman and ALL of them are now infected. He’s now in jail for assault with a deadly weapon.

These women were indeed victims of a psychopath, but at what point could they have been masters of their own fate? Woman need to recognize all the things that LOVE is and is not. I’m not blaming them by any means, but it should be a wake up call to several women (in Atlanta especially) who feel that a piece of a man is better than none at all.

I’m still weeding through the frogs tryna find my prince charming but one thing I know for sure is…I’m not accepting a piece. I’m way too stingy for that…

Video ~ My Lovin’ (Never Gonna Get It)